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Day 20: Life of a wife

Hello beautiful people!

So I don’t think anyone is ever fully prepared to be a wife. You may go through pre-marital counseling, hear all the model stories to motivate you and read countless books but there’s nothing like actually living the married life and putting whatever you’ve read or heard into practice.

More often than not, we hear and see a never ending list of things wives are supposed to do to ‘keep’ their husbands but I love the saying that goes like “you can’t keep someone who doesn’t want to be kept“. I know many women who feel overwhelmed by this seemingly impossible list of ways to please the hubby without seeing an equivalent of it for the men but another story for another day.

Before we got married, my hubs and I had reached an understanding that marriage is not 50/50 like some people say, it is 100/100: both parties giving their all, so each person has to focus on putting in enough effort to give their partner 100%.

As a wife, Mr A is my topmost priority. I have the task of making sure that he is okay in every aspect of his life and where he’s not, I have to support, encourage and root for him so that he gets there. I can’t be okay when he’s not.

Besides everything, the most valuable thing I can ever offer him is my prayers.

One of the best wedding gifts I received 

This is an amazing book that helped me in the first few months of marriage when I was still trying to find my feet. It gives you such realistic and meaningful prayers to say over every area of your husband’s life. It is centered on how he can be the best version of himself as a husband, father and an individual so don’t let the title put you off from grabbing a copy! It is actually meant to make him a better hubby to you😉 (Who doesn’t want this?!)

Prayer is such a priceless yet affordable gift you can give to your husband at all times. Please do it frequently. Everyday is an opportunity to learn how to be a better wife to him and a better individual generally.

Most important thing I’ve learned as a wife?

Our marriage is between us two only, no one else has a say and even if they do, their opinions shouldn’t be binding on us.   

My life as his wife is a wonderful yet challenging experience and my heart is at peace knowing that he’s the one I agreed to be with for life!

Share with me some of your experiences and lessons you’ve learnt as a wife. I would love to hear them.

Always here if you need to talk:

Love always,

Mrs. A



I'm a young wife, an encourager and a writer at heart, walking in my purpose and following God's lead. I’ve got a heart as big as my hips and I love reaching out to people who are hurting or suffering in silence. I know everyone goes through something at some point in life and through my writing, I want to make such people know that no matter who they are or what they go through, they can count on me to be there for them. Follow my journey as I share my life experiences in the hope of making you go a little harder at whatever you do. 💞always. Mrs A the encourager.

4 thoughts on “Day 20: Life of a wife

  1. I love this post for so many reasons. I read it the day you posted it and read it again today. Marriage is on my heart and mind but I don’t believe God has done everything He’s wanted to in me to prepare for marriage. It took me a while to admit that. Even when he blesses me with that union, I don’t think there’s anyway to be 100% ready READY! Like being perfect from day 1. I think you’re saying something important here ! I’m going to get that book after I finish my current one “A Woman After God’s Own Heart”

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    1. Aw that’s really good to know! There are certain things God might be showing us but sometimes it takes us long to admit it (guilty lol) but I’m really glad you’ve admitted that to yourself. God will even keep working in you even after you’re married to mould you into the best version of yourself as an individual and a wife. I’d have to check out the book you’re currently reading, who is the author please?

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      1. Admitting it is like ripping off a bandaid lol I believe every word you’re saying. I’m looking forward to the growth honestly. And I appreciate the wisdom from married women of God like yourself. The author of the book is Elizabeth George. Let me know if you get it !

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