Posted in Inside My Head


Hello beautiful people & Happy Easter to us all!

So I recently celebrated my birthday (S/O to all March borns, we’re so special!) and before my month ends, I’d like to share with you all one of the best things I’ve done for myself so far. If you haven’t done it yet, you you definitely need to do this.

Finally, I have been able to set myself free from the opinions of others. Though I sometimes feel like it has taken me too long to get to this point, I’m really grateful that I’ve been able to do this at this time of my life before I get any further because I would certainly need it for the journey ahead.

Before I go in, let me tell you a little about myself. I am such a lovely person. Not to toot my own horn but I’m really sweet and very thoughtful too. So thoughtful that when someone says something mean to me, instead of replying in an equally mean manner or worse, I’d rather be thinking of how they would feel if I said such a thing. In any given situation, I tend to think more of the next person’ feelings than mine. I would always wonder why a person would say something to me that I would never think of saying to them but you know what, life is unfair. We don’t always get treated the way we treat others but that’s okay because it says a lot about the kind of people we are and the kind of people they are.

Sometimes I’d tell HusBae what someone said to me and he’d ask what my response was (cos he’s got such a smart mouth, lol don’t come for me babe) but I’d say, “Oh I just smiled and shook my head.” then he’d say “What?! You let these people get away with too much!”

And he was right. I had allowed this for far too long because obviously, what you allow is what would continue. HusBae has always encouraged me to speak up more but being a reserved person by nature, I had to get to that point on my own. And oh, that’s where I’m at right now.

Another reason why I restrained myself so much from retaliating was because I thought I would hurt their feelings as I’m very observant and I know where to hit that would hurt the most, but do these people think about if my feelings would be hurt by their words? Nope.

Now this doesn’t mean I’m going to become like them, going around and poking my nose where it doesn’t belong because I love staying in my lane and minding my own business, howeverrr, people like to come for me because I seem to be an “easy target” as I mostly don’t talk back, but let someone try me now.


Always remember:

1. Don’t let anyone take you for granted.

2. Don’t let anyone treat you any less than you deserve.

3. Don’t ever let anyone try to dim your light because they feel you’re shining too bright. Shine to your fullest capacity.

And finally, 4. Don’t keep things inside when you know you’re only going to get bothered by them. Speak up and speak out! Say what you like and don’t like. It would bring you peace of mind.

The quickest way to go down is to entrap yourself in the “What would they think/say box”.

Set yourself free. You deserve it.

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Love always,

Mrs A.

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I'm a young wife, an encourager and a writer at heart, walking in my purpose and following God's lead. I’ve got a heart as big as my hips and I love reaching out to people who are hurting or suffering in silence. I know everyone goes through something at some point in life and through my writing, I want to make such people know that no matter who they are or what they go through, they can count on me to be there for them. Follow my journey as I share my life experiences in the hope of making you go a little harder at whatever you do. 💞always. Mrs A the encourager.

5 thoughts on “Freedom

  1. I love it. And let me tell you that I actually feel you. We are strong and because we are not answering back make them feel like we weak. But in my case, it’s just that I am not that kind of person and just like you said, I think about how they may feel if I let them know what is on my mind. I would like to say so much because I do know how it feels and I am still working on SPEAKING OUT. But you let’s keep it brief, you don’t have to change FOR NOBODY, you are a great person. We just need to learn HOW and WHEN to say Enough is Enough. Thank you for your article. Stay blessed 🙏

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    1. Thank you so much for reading and sharing your thoughts. You are so right, we are not those kind of people but we need to know where to draw the line. Keep working on speaking out just as I am, and we would definitely get there! Bless you xx
      Oh and whenever you feel like you want to say so much, please do. Let it out. It’s part of the process.


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