Posted in Inspirational, Real Talk

Happy New Year!

Hello beautiful people!

I’m a little late to the party but Happy New Year to you all!

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As the year begins, I want you to ask yourself this simple question: “What is my why?”
Let this question guide your every move this year.

•Why do you have that dream in your heart?
•Why do you want to achieve those goals?
•Why do you want a lifestyle change?
•Why do you want to do the things that you want to do?

Your why is the very thing that motivates you to get up every morning and work a little harder to get a little better.

Knowing your “why” will help you stay committed to your dream.

Sometimes we are too focused on letting other people co-sign our dream, the dream that has been put in our hearts that we drag our feet on chasing it because the people we expect to support us are not being supportive. I’ll tell you one thing, most of your biggest fans/supporters would be people you don’t know personally.

In 2018, I pray we all chase our dreams relentlessly even if no one else believes in it.

Love always,

Mrs. A

If you’re currently going through challenging times and you’d like a listening ear, some encouragement or motivation, please contact me here: talktomrsa@gmail.com

 

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Posted in Inspirational

God’s Time Vrs Our Time

Hello beautiful people!

‘God’s time is the best.’ I’m sure you have heard this at some point in your life but what does it really mean? When is God’s time?

So you know how whenever you close your eyes or try to envision your future, you keep seeing yourself doing certain things or going to certain places? Or how you have this strong desire in your heart to get a particular thing done? Yeah that is your God given dream. Unfortunately, not everyone will go ahead and make that dream a reality. We can dream all we want, (I’m such a big dreamer) but at some point we’ve got to wake up and do something! I am all for living out your dreams but to be honest, it is never easy. In fact, one of the most challenging  things to do in this life is taking that risk, daring to believe in yourself enough and stepping out in faith to make that dream happen but even then, it won’t all come together for you at once. Sometimes you would even question yourself and God, and ask if He indeed put that dream in your heart because when you look around you, it looks far from possible but believe me when I say that your vision is yet for an appointed time and as long as we are in this world where there are seasons and times, it shall surely come to pass.

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There are times when things have happened for us sooner than we expected (example: my marriage) and in such cases do we say it was God’s time? Of course we do because once it is a good thing then it definitely happened in God’s perfect time.

There are also times when things have happened for us later than we expected or they don’t seem to be happening for us at all (example: me trying to find a job after Uni). When we think certain things (mostly material) like money, jobs, marriage, childbirth, etc. have delayed in our lives, do we also say then that it is because it’s not God’s time yet or do we get frustrated? Many times, it seems we dictate to God when and how we want things to happen, I mean we even give deadlines and send threats but is God moved by these things? Nope!

In my life, I’ve had to wait for many things to happen for me mostly when it had already happened for everyone around me (example: me owning a laptop for the first time, story for another day) so I know how hard and frustrating it can be to wait but I also know that when God says something is going to be done, it definitely gets done BUT at the time He sees fit because like I always say, He knows BEST.

Imagine giving your 10 year old child a million dollars. What would he/she do with it? Even if they have some great ideas, how are they going to implement it on their own? But imagine giving it to them 20 years later, when you’ve watched them grow into a responsible adult who can manage their affairs properly. Wouldn’t you trust them better at this age with such an amount? I feel like this is the way it is with us and God. As an all knowing God, I’m sure He knows what we can & cannot handle and when we can & can’t handle it, so He wouldn’t give us what we’re not prepared or ready for, or anything that we can’t handle even if we say we want it. Take some time to reflect on some of the things you wanted so badly 5 years ago but never had, and ask yourself if you would truly have been able to handle it at the time. Maybe then you thought you could have, but if you’re honest with yourself, when you look back today, you’d realize that you probably weren’t ready for it or you didn’t really need it and that’s why you never had it. I just searched myself and you don’t want to know what I wanted badly 5 years ago.

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A friend of mine always used to post this quote that I love so much: “Faith in God includes faith in His timing.” If we say we have faith in God then of course we must have faith in His perfect timing too. We know His timing is not like ours, He is never too early or late so even though we may think things have delayed or have happened too soon, for Him they happen right on time. Don’t get frustrated or tired of waiting for that thing that seems to be taking so long to happen, God knows the right time to give it to you and that is the exact time you’re going to get it. There are no laws anywhere that state that certain things in our lives should happen at specific times so rest easy and keep trusting in God’s timing because like He said in Isaiah 60:22 (MSG); “I am GOD. At the right time I’ll make it happen.” (NIRV): “I am the Lord. When the time is right, I will act quickly.” (AMP): “I, the LORD, will quicken it in its [appointed] time.”

In his time, in his time,

He makes all things beautiful in His time…

Keep trusting, keep hoping and keep believing, God will definitely come through for you. He loves you so much and He will never fail you!

Love always,

Mrs. A

If you’re currently going through challenging times and you’d like a listening ear, some encouragement or motivation, please contact me here: talktomrsa@gmail.com

 

Posted in Talk Back Tuesdays

What scares you?

Hello beautiful people!

Before I go in today, let me just ask a few questions and you can reply to them in the comments. When you sit still and close your eyes, what do you see yourself doing? What does your future life look like when you imagine/picture it? Are there things you see in your future but you’re not seeing in your present life? For me there are so many! I know it is God who puts dreams, goals and ambitions in our hearts but it is entirely up to us to actually make them happen because we all know He’s not going to come down and chase our dreams for us.

The one thing that holds us back from achieving our God given dreams or even venturing out to do anything out of the ordinary is fear.

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False Evidence Appearing Real. Sometimes it’s all in your head

Oh I felt this on my way home today and I knew I had to share because I have been a victim of this bad boy several times. Those mental images you have of yourself doing one great thing or the other are not just silly imaginations, they are actually dreams which have been put on your heart for you to make a reality! Sometimes, we believers get so caught up with ‘waiting on God’ or ‘waiting for God’s time’ that several chances and opportunities pass us by without us even realizing it. Sometimes, it is just our fear of the unknown, fear of failure or even fear of our own greatness that holds us back.

Would you leave your comfort zone and your familiar surroundings to take up a job offer somewhere you have never been? Would you take the chance to try that new thing you’ve been meaning to, even if it doesn’t go well? Are you willing to step into the line of work you really want to do even if you can’t tell what the outcome is going to be? Will you still go ahead and chase your dreams even if the people around you don’t support you? What I’ve come to know about dreams and goals is that God gives them to each person privately. He won’t come and tell me about the dream He has put on YOUR heart, He will reveal it to YOU alone. You are the only one who knows what He has placed on your heart so until you are sure of how to make it a reality, you are better off keeping it to yourself. I’ve learnt this the hard way. Remember Joseph the dreamer in Genesis 37?

This is just a short one to encourage anyone who is being held back by fear to go on and be amazing at whatever they want to do.

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You need to let go of the fear of:

  • Failure
  • Being judged- what others will think/say (this is the fastest & easiest way to lose yourself)
  • Not being good enough
  • Trying new things
  • Living your dream/walking in your purpose
  • Change
  • Loving and being loved
  • Rejection (I had this fear earlier today but later realized it was totally uncalled for)

Let’s talk about your dreams and ambitions. Do they scare you when you think of them? Good! That means you’re dreaming BIG. If your dreams don’t scare you then they are just normal and ordinary. Do you have any fears? What’s holding you back from doing what you really want to do?

Dare to dream big, dare to step out of your comfort zone and into your purpose, dare to do the things that scare yet excite you so much.

God loves you so very much and He’s always got you. He has promised never to leave or forsake you so go out there and be great! He’s with you every step of the way.

Love always,

Mrs A.

If you’re currently going through challenging times and you’d like a listening ear, some encouragement or motivation, please contact me here: talktomrsa@gmail.com

 

 

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Posted in Inspirational, Real Talk, Straight Outta My Heart

You Deserve it & More!

I should be giving you more…

I wanna give my best to you, I wanna do what you ask me to do

I wanna go wherever you say, just say the word and I’ll obey

I wanna live a life that’s real, I wanna serve you Lord for real

For you deserve all this and more, so I give you more

You’re deserving of more…I give you more

-More, Lawrence Flowers

Hello beautiful people!

This is one of my favorite love songs that I like to sing to my Father because He really does deserve the best of me and more. This song probably has no correlation to this post but I felt drawn to it when this piece dropped in my spirit earlier today. Ladies, I’m here for you again today. The reason why I lean towards the ladies so much is because there are a lot of unaddressed emotional issues we go through, on top of that list is our relationship issues and it often leads us to take certain unfavorable or extreme decisions. Some of us are great at sharing our problems with our friends but I’ve been trying to figure out what it is that prevents the rest of us from opening up and a few reasons I’ve come up with are;

  • because we are way too judgmental as a people
  • we lack empathy- we pretend to care but we don’t really
  • & we gossip a lot- when someone confides in us we end up spreading their story to everyone else.

Well this post is not about opening up or sharing your problems, I have rather come to share with you the amazing kind of love that you deserve. My husband said something to me today which is actually the root of this post. It’s not something he has never said to me before, it’s actually something he says all the time but today it just hit me like wow, what a man! You’re wondering what it is that got me huh? Lol it’s just 3 little words, nope not ‘I love you’ but ‘mepaky3w wo se?’ That is Twi (a Ghanaian local dialect) for ‘what did you say, please?’ Again you’re probably wondering what the big deal is about something this little but let me tell you if you’ve been through what I have, you’d appreciate the smallest details too.

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Dzifa in love- Final Part

That brings me to the heart of this message: respect in relationships. My husband is one of the most polite people I’ve ever known, doesn’t joke with his pleases, sorrys and thank yous. He’s actually one of those people who always say thank you to anyone who provides a service for him, like bus or cab drivers, cleaners, shop attendants or myself the wifey and even though that’s how it’s supposed to be, it still warms my heart each time. Coming from a background of verbally and emotionally abusive relationships, it’s so amazing to be with someone who treats me with respect every single time. As I’ve said before, I’m a very quiet and calm person, and one thing I detest the most is to be shouted at. I really, really dislike being shouted at whether during a misunderstanding or a regular conversation but guess who was getting shouted at constantly? I yearned so much for someone who would be gentle with me and understand me totally, basically treat me with respect but I had become so used to the opposite that I accepted it as normal. What’s worse, I also began to do same. Bad company corrupts good morals, they say, and sometimes certain attributes of the person you’re with begin to rub off on you. Imagine me, sweet spirit and calm soul shouting on top of my voice during arguments (regularly too) just to be heard or to get my point across.

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STRESS!!!!

My mom always used to query me about my regular shouting bouts whenever she heard me and I always had the same response for her, ”Do you really think this is what I want for myself?” Oh how I hated it! Look, I don’t even like talking much (I know some people will disagree lol) not to talk of having constant altercations. I yearned so much for peace of mind, for someone who would be gentle with me and understand me completely but I had also come to accept this ridiculous way of life, thinking it was all I had so I just had to ‘manage’ it, as much as I disliked it. The thought of spending the rest of my life being shouted at and disrespected killed me a little inside each time it crossed my mind but I still thought that was it for me & that was my mistake. I really should have walked out sooner because I saw misery-ever-after in the future instead of the happily ever after fairytale ending I wanted. Everyone deserves to be loved, cared for and respected on their own terms, exactly the way they want because we all have different love languages. You never have to ‘manage’, you deserve a love so overwhelming that it literally radiates from you.

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Don’t accept anything less!

I have heard a lot of people project their failures in relationships or marriages on others by generalizing statements like ‘all men cheat’ or ‘men are wicked’. Please, my beautiful daughter of the King, do not be deceived by some of these things you hear. There are still good, no actually, great men out there. When you close your eyes and imagine the kind of love you want, don’t think it’s impossible because there is someone out there who can love you like that. Don’t let anyone make you feel like your desires in a relationship are over the top, there is someone who will fulfill all those and more. The fact that the person you’re with doesn’t treat you with respect doesn’t mean you’re not worth it or no man ever will, you just haven’t met him yet. I implore you dear sis, again to take a step back and analyze your relationship. Please don’t stay for frivolous reasons such as you’ve been together for too long or you’ve invested so much so you can’t leave; if deep down in your heart you know good and well that this is not what you really desire in a relationship and you’re not truly happy as you portray, just fronting for the world like I was, then you seriously need to reconsider.

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Can you believe at one point I was with someone who wanted me to get pregnant before marrying me, and at another point with someone who just wanted us to have children together but not get married?

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Yup, so done

Can you also believe my husband proposed to me without trying to get me pregnant or making me an unofficial wife first? There are men and there are MEN and you deserve the very best sis. I got my fairytale love story and so can you, with God all things are possible.

Ladies, you deserve a godly man who treats you with utmost respect and gives you the exact kind of love you deserve and more!

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Love always,

Mrs. A

If you’re currently going through challenging times and you’d like a listening ear, some encouragement or motivation, please contact me here: talktomrsa@gmail.com