Posted in Inspirational, Real Talk

In Pursuit of Happiness

Hello beautiful people!

I missed you all so very much. I’m always thinking about when next I can come here and share with my WordPress family but work is taking so much of me!

Someone once said true happiness is one of the hardest things to find these days and I think that’s true because there are so many people who are secretly hurting but putting on a brave face for the world. In a society that is so fast paced and barely has time to feel, people have to suck it up and pretend they are okay even if they are falling apart on the inside.

I saw a post on Instagram by Pastor Cornelius Lindsey which I’d like to share with you all.

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As an emotional person, I’ve often come across people who have dismissed my feelings and brushed it off as though it was my fault that I feel everything more deeply than others (where my emo sisters at?) so I began to think of and refer to it as my weakness not realizing how much of a strength it actually is, because it does take a lot for one to feel so deeply like I do.

Besides the fact that it’s not always easy to find someone you can trust and confide in without being judged, there are also the ‘Get over it’ type of people.

So you’ve found someone you think you can trust and confide in, you share what’s deeply bothering you and all they say to you is ‘Get over it’, or ‘Don’t worry’ or ‘Don’t think about it too much’. The worst one for me is ‘It is well’.

C’mon now.

Are we so desensitized to other people’s problems and issues that we just flippantly say something so hollow like ‘It is well’?

It is well? Let’s talk about this for a minute.

It is not well. I wouldn’t be sharing my problems with you if it was well. I wouldn’t be crying right now if it was well. I wouldn’t be feeling depressed if it was well. If I’m telling you I’m not okay and you’re telling me it is well, it’s like you’re not listening to me.

Can we please allow people to feel? Yes they will get over it but for now, in the moment, can you please hug them and hold their hand through it?

Or is it that we genuinely don’t know what to say, so we say things like that?

“God is in control”. Yes, the person who came to you certainly knows that God is in control but they’re coming to you for comfort, for you to hear them out and at least feel for them not to repeat what they already know.

Let’s be more empathetic and kind to one another. You don’t always have to say something, sometimes your presence alone is enough. That reassuring smile, that pat on the back or warm hug goes a longer way than the flippant words ever will.

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Life is stressful enough, let’s try to make it a little bit easier for the people around us by being there for them.

Love always,

Mrs A.

If you’re currently going through challenging times and you’d like a listening ear, some encouragement or motivation, please contact me here: talktomrsa@gmail.com

 

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Posted in Romance

That Guy

The ladies in relationships…
Y’all would know best who ‘that guy’ is..
For those in loveless relationships,
he’s the one who shows you so much love, love so true and pure that makes you wonder if such love exists,if its even for real..♡ ♡
For those in abusive relationships,
he’s the one who holds you close, caresses you and whispers sweet nothings in your ears when your man hits you.
Those of you whose men can’t do it right, he’s the one who makes you feel like a real woman..
And for those who hardly have any problems, just an occasional hitch here and there,
a few misunderstandings and petty squabbles,
He’s that really sweet guy who’s always got you,
always at your beck and call,ready to help with anything at all,
bringing you movies and the new episodes of your favourite series,
helping with your math homework,doing that assignment for you while you hang with the girls,
saving a seat for you in class even when you don’t show up,cos you overslept after having that wonderful night out with your man 😉
‘That guy’ for some,is the one you can never have,
For others, he’s the one who can never have you.
Sometimes,you know ‘that guy’ can’t have you but you lead him on cos he gives you all the attention your man never gives you..
You keep him hanging around you cos you enjoy his company and the quality time he spends with you,
unlike your man who is always on the phone to his business partners, or in some meeting.
You forget ‘that guy’ has feelings too..
He has emotions,needs and a heart.
A heart that yearns for you,
that hurts each time you run back into your man’s arms
or come to him crying,badly bruised..
Each time you give him that brief hug,when he wants to hold you tight,
Each time you give him a peck on the cheek,or a kiss on the forehead when he actually wants to french you..
Life at this point is so unfair to ‘that guy’
But…
he has already promised that he’s gon be there for you no matter what,
he has already told his boys that he’s gon win you over eventually
he already told his mum all about you and how much he loves you,so he can’t let go..
Hard as it may be,you need to set ‘that guy’ free,
Even if he’s holding on tight and doesn’t want to be set free,
let him go..cos you know you can’t return his love,
And somewhere out there, ‘that girl’ is waiting to love him even more than he loves you!