Posted in Inspirational, Straight Outta My Heart

Going through a hard time?

Never would have made it…
Never could have made it without you…

Hello beautiful people!
I woke up yesterday with this song on my heart. Last month was such an emotional roller coaster for me. With stress from work and life in general, news of deaths, experiencing disappointments and having so many uncertainties but still having to keep it together, my emotions were really all over the place.

I would have lost my mind, I would have gave up but you were right there…
Have you ever gone through anything that made you feel as if you were going to lose your mind?
I felt that way several times last month. There was so much unrest in my mind. My sanity was at stake and so many times I would say, “I don’t know how I’m still doing this.”

Now here comes my favourite line of the song and I listen to this song a lot, but yesterday this part really stood out to me:
I would have lost it all but now I see how you were there for me…
This part really touched me!
Can we be honest here for a minute believers? How many of us feel like we’re all by ourselves when we’re going through a really rough time? I’m talking about a very tight situation which looks really hopeless. How many of us feel like God is silent through our tests? I know I do.
I can praise, I can worship, I can pray and even though I know I haven’t been forsaken, I still feel like I’m doing it alone.
But oh, once I get through that storm, that’s when I have the “now I see” moment.

Ha! I feel like doing a little dance here.

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Now I see how you were there for me: That was how I was still doing it! When I wondered how I was still sane, how I could still smile, how I could still get work done, it was simply because He was there for me the whole time.
This brings tears to my eyes because if I was running on my own strength, I would have messed up big time. I would have lost it all. I would have been telling a different story today.
I guess sometimes we expect fireworks and big bangs to know He is with us but I’ve learned that in the midst of all the chaos, confusion and what appears to be silence on His part, He is right there with us.
When I look back over what He brought me through, I realise I made it because I had you to hold on to…
Honestly, when I look back at the situation I’ve just gone through, I can say for a fact that I didn’t do that on my own. There were many times when I felt so weak, when I felt like I couldn’t get through another day but the day would come and I’ll make it through. How? Because I had Him to hold on to.
I’m sharing this today because I know there’s someone somewhere going through a similar situation. I know there’s someone who has been waiting for something for so long that it’s beginning to look impossible. I know that you’re probably at your breaking point and you don’t want to hear another “just stay strong” sermon so I just want to assure you that:
1.You’re not alone. No matter how your situation looks or how you feel, you are not alone. You have me, someone who has been there and totally understands but more importantly, you have God who will never leave nor forsake you. If you can’t talk to anyone, talk or write to Him. (I express myself better in writing so when my words fail me, I write to God)
2.This too shall pass. No matter how long it seems to be taking, even though it looks like for you alone there’s no light at the end of the tunnel, the truth is that there is. Even though it looks like it has been stormy forever, the sun will come out. There has never been a day without the night, neither has it ever been nighttime for 24 hours. It will pass for you to look back thank God that you made it. I pray that when it passes, you too will encourage someone going through the same thing.

Love always,

Mrs A.

If you’re currently going through challenging times and you’d like a listening ear, some encouragement or motivation, please contact me here: talktomrsa@gmail.com

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Posted in Inspirational, Real Talk

Happy New Year!

Hello beautiful people!

I’m a little late to the party but Happy New Year to you all!

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As the year begins, I want you to ask yourself this simple question: “What is my why?”
Let this question guide your every move this year.

•Why do you have that dream in your heart?
•Why do you want to achieve those goals?
•Why do you want a lifestyle change?
•Why do you want to do the things that you want to do?

Your why is the very thing that motivates you to get up every morning and work a little harder to get a little better.

Knowing your “why” will help you stay committed to your dream.

Sometimes we are too focused on letting other people co-sign our dream, the dream that has been put in our hearts that we drag our feet on chasing it because the people we expect to support us are not being supportive. I’ll tell you one thing, most of your biggest fans/supporters would be people you don’t know personally.

In 2018, I pray we all chase our dreams relentlessly even if no one else believes in it.

Love always,

Mrs. A

If you’re currently going through challenging times and you’d like a listening ear, some encouragement or motivation, please contact me here: talktomrsa@gmail.com

 

Posted in Inspirational, Real Talk

In Pursuit of Happiness

Hello beautiful people!

I missed you all so very much. I’m always thinking about when next I can come here and share with my WordPress family but work is taking so much of me!

Someone once said true happiness is one of the hardest things to find these days and I think that’s true because there are so many people who are secretly hurting but putting on a brave face for the world. In a society that is so fast paced and barely has time to feel, people have to suck it up and pretend they are okay even if they are falling apart on the inside.

I saw a post on Instagram by Pastor Cornelius Lindsey which I’d like to share with you all.

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As an emotional person, I’ve often come across people who have dismissed my feelings and brushed it off as though it was my fault that I feel everything more deeply than others (where my emo sisters at?) so I began to think of and refer to it as my weakness not realizing how much of a strength it actually is, because it does take a lot for one to feel so deeply like I do.

Besides the fact that it’s not always easy to find someone you can trust and confide in without being judged, there are also the ‘Get over it’ type of people.

So you’ve found someone you think you can trust and confide in, you share what’s deeply bothering you and all they say to you is ‘Get over it’, or ‘Don’t worry’ or ‘Don’t think about it too much’. The worst one for me is ‘It is well’.

C’mon now.

Are we so desensitized to other people’s problems and issues that we just flippantly say something so hollow like ‘It is well’?

It is well? Let’s talk about this for a minute.

It is not well. I wouldn’t be sharing my problems with you if it was well. I wouldn’t be crying right now if it was well. I wouldn’t be feeling depressed if it was well. If I’m telling you I’m not okay and you’re telling me it is well, it’s like you’re not listening to me.

Can we please allow people to feel? Yes they will get over it but for now, in the moment, can you please hug them and hold their hand through it?

Or is it that we genuinely don’t know what to say, so we say things like that?

“God is in control”. Yes, the person who came to you certainly knows that God is in control but they’re coming to you for comfort, for you to hear them out and at least feel for them not to repeat what they already know.

Let’s be more empathetic and kind to one another. You don’t always have to say something, sometimes your presence alone is enough. That reassuring smile, that pat on the back or warm hug goes a longer way than the flippant words ever will.

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Life is stressful enough, let’s try to make it a little bit easier for the people around us by being there for them.

Love always,

Mrs A.

If you’re currently going through challenging times and you’d like a listening ear, some encouragement or motivation, please contact me here: talktomrsa@gmail.com

 

Posted in Random, This & That

Day 7: Self Care

Hello beautiful people!

When I saw today’s challenge, I immediately thought fitness, being the fitness lover that I am (or used to be, judging from my current size 🤣) but I also thought of a more essential part of self care that we seem to overlook, especially in this country: emotional self care.

What is self care?

It is a very active and powerful choice to engage in the activities that are required to gain or maintain an optimal level of overall health. And in this case, overall health includes not just the physical (so yeah, not just fitness), but the psychological, emotional, social, and spiritual components of an individual’s well-being.

I’m choosing to delve into emotional self care because around these parts, it looks like it’s unheard of to be ‘Not Okay’.

A typical conversation goes like:

Person A: “How are you doing?”

Person B (regardless of how they’re really feeling & without a second thought): “I’m good, you?”

Person A (also regardless of how they’re really feeling): “I’m good too” OR “I’m great” OR the most popular, “I’m okay”.

I know so many people who are hurting deeply, distressed and almost distraught but carry on with their daily lives with the “I’m okay” cover because we are not supposed to be ‘Not Okay’.

We are supposed to be strong and face everything that comes our way, no matter how painful and overwhelming, because we are super-humans 🙄😏

We are supposed to be tough and put a brave face on even when we are breaking down and falling apart on the inside.

You would rarely find a Ghanaian openly talking about the challenges they’re facing. Such things are only whispered in our pastor’s offices, maybe for fear of the issues being broadcasted to everyone else or mostly because we try to brave it, thinking that ‘this too shall pass’ and that things would get better so we can share our ‘testimony’.

Now I’m not saying that when we have issues we should shout it on the rooftop, I’m saying it is OKAY to be NOT OKAY.

Pretending to be okay can only go on for so long till you have an emotional breakdown (I would know).

Please, if you’re struggling with something you know you can’t handle on your own, if there’s something overwhelming bothering you, if you’re going through an emotional turmoil, find someone you trust or even a neutral person and speak to them. Let it out, don’t keep it in.

Try journaling your feelings (I do this a lot) or writing what’s wrong on a piece of paper and throwing it away.

If you need support in prayers, ask a close friend or a family member.

If you need to borrow some money, ask someone that you can repay. (& please pay them back😐)

If you’re unhappy about something, let it be known.

And if you’re just not okay, that’s fine. Have someone close to you hold your hand and rub your back. Bear hugs work for me.

Dear someone, you don’t have to do it all alone. You don’t have to bear all that pain and burden by yourself.

Let’s also make more efforts to really find out if our friends are okay.

Let’s be there for them when they need us and keep our mouths (+ judgmental minds) shut when they tell us what’s bothering them.

There are far too many people hurting but keeping it inside due to the fear of being judged and becoming the next hot topic in WhatsApp groups.

Just as you take care of the other parts of yourself, take care of your emotional side too. Don’t pretend it doesn’t exist.

Seek professional help if you need to.

And if you’re like me, stop keeping things in!

It’s OKAY to be NOT OKAY.

I’m always here if you need to talk: talktomrsa@gmail.com

Love always,

Mrs. A

Set yourself free.

Posted in Inside My Head, Inspirational

Going through a hard time?

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Kwabena ne Abena Afriyie – 7th Oct, 2016

 

This is us when:

  • we can’t see any way out & God makes a way
  • the enemy tries it & God blocks it
  • we think it’s over but He says He’s just beginning with us.

 

Hello beautiful people!

So these past few months have been extremely challenging, emotionally & mentally exhausting for us BUT GOD.

It reminds me of the Sunday school song “With Jesus in the boat, I will smile at the storm…” and even though we haven’t exactly been smiling at the storm, we know we have Him on our side so we are in a comfortable lead.

The song I’ve had on repeat during these times is ‘I surrender’ by Brooklyn Tabernacle Choir. When you’ve tried everything and nothing seems to be working, it just makes sense to lay it all at His feet and leave it. Just leave it there & not try to pick it back up. You know you can’t help yourself or do anything about your situation but He can.

I would just like to encourage and say a short prayer for anyone who is facing an extremely tight situation right now.

“Father I commit these precious ones into your mighty hands. You know them, you know their deepest heart desires. You know what they’re feeling and going through right now and I ask that you help them. It is my heartfelt prayer Father that you help anyone facing an unbearable situation like you help me every day. Father I pray that you wrap them in your arms, let your love envelope them and let them feel safe in the midst of the storm. May their faith in you be unwavering even though right now it seems easy to lose faith. Father please give them whatever they need to be okay. I know you always hear me father, so thank you for hearing me and doing this for us. Amen.”

 Here are a few lines from the song ‘I Surrender’. You can sing along or even say it as a prayer:

“Humble and broken I come to you

I’m trusting and waiting to see what you will do.

Lord You know what’s best and at your feet I find my rest

I’m coming to you again Lord, here I am

I surrender, I surrender

Lord I surrender my life, give it all to you.”

Dear someone going through a hard time, please don’t give up. We’re in this together and God’s got us.

Love always,

Mrs A.

If you’re currently going through challenging times and you’d like a listening ear, some encouragement or motivation, please contact me here: talktomrsa@gmail.com

 

Posted in Inspirational, Straight Outta My Heart

Delays?

Hello beautiful people!

This topic has been on my heart the whole of this week because of something amazing that happened to me. I know I write a lot about trusting God and waiting on Him for something that seems to be taking long but that is because it is something I’ve personally had to deal with a lot in my life and I also see many people facing it, so why not encourage them as I encourage myself too?

I’ve written about how certain things seem to happen for us sooner than we expect and of course that always makes us happy, so we look up with excitement and say “God I know that was you!” but on the other hand when things seem to delay, how do we react? What do we say? What do we think of God then? Like I wrote here God’s Time Vrs Our Time, there are so many things I’ve had to wait for in my life that had already happened for everyone around me. I always seemed to ‘carry last’ and would often cry out to God and as usual, ask

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I didn’t know of the principle of times and seasons then so I just expected things to happen when I thought they had to, so if there were any delays, I would think I was not doing something right and start wondering if God was forgetting about me. It sounds ridiculous just typing it out now because really, HOW can God forget about me, the apple of His eye?

God can never forget about you!

I’d like to share this really popular scripture that talks about times and seasons. Ecclesiastes 3:1 (KJV): ‘To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven.’ (ERV): ‘There is a right time for everything, and everything on earth will happen at the right time.’

When I finally understood this, I stopped fretting, took a huge sigh of relief and I rested! I pray right now that by the end of this post, you my dear reader, will get this insight and find that rest too. I’m going to share with you two things that really put my mind to ease and enabled me enter this rest:

  1. The way I see God/my knowledge of God– Growing up, I thought I knew God. I mean I knew there was God but I didn’t know him intimately. I knew him as an entity who was very far away, who sat high up in the clouds to watch and record my every move, who could get angry at me and punish me when I did certain things, and reward me only when I did some other specific things. Thank God I have grown out of that! My view of God changed when I began to see him as MY father. Psalm 68:5 talks about God being a father to the fatherless and because my dad is late, I have personally taken God as MY own father. My relationship with him did a 180 degree turn when I began to relate to him as my dad instead of the distant God I knew. When my dad was alive, he loved and cared for me, and provided all my needs. Yes he did discipline me and kept me in check, but he never threw me out, threatened me or deliberately denied me of my needs even if I did something wrong, and this was my father who was just a man. If a man who can lie/change gave me good things, why wouldn’t God give me even better? (Matthew 7: 9-11) I am simply unable to see God as anything short of a loving father. This is someone who is not a human being, he has no flaws, weaknesses or shortcomings; he is perfect. Just imagine the kind of love that would flow from this perfect source, obviously it would supersede an earthly father’s. This brings me to my point. So this loving father of ours created and owns everything in this world, do you really think he would deny you of any good thing that you ask him for? Are you wondering why it looks as if some of your requests are being denied? I’ll address that in #2.

 

  1. My understanding of times & seasons– I have now come to understand fully that there is indeed a time for everything. Ecclesiastes 3: 2-8 throws more light on the different seasons and times in life. I love how verse 1 says there is a right time for everything and everything on earth will happen at the right time. That means there are also times that are ‘wrong’ for some things to happen; like a baby can’t be born just after a month of being pregnant and a baby won’t walk right after being born. Sometimes, certain things you ask for or pray about will not happen but that doesn’t mean God is bad, or wicked or that he has forgotten about you, it just means it is not the right time yet! Life is full of times & seasons and as long as there is day and night, rain and sun, things will always change. I read something in the book of John and I was so amazed by it that I’ve read it over and over again. On 2 different occasions (John 7:30 & 8:20) the people couldn’t arrest Jesus because what? The right time for him had not yet come. The repetition of this spoke so deeply to me and made me realize that nothing will happen until it is the right/set time for it to. That really helped me to relax and stop being so hard on myself. I mean even Jesus’ arrest which would lead to his crucifixion had an appointed time. A few chapters ahead when Jesus was praying, he mentioned that the time/hour had come. Then after praying, he was arrested. Understanding this principle helps you do away with worrying about the when’s and how’s, and makes you confident that even though nothing might be happening for you currently, it is definitely going to happen at the right time and in the right season.
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Love this!

I have always heard that just because you cannot see what God is doing behind the scenes doesn’t mean that He isn’t working on your behalf and I believe this is so true! I’ve had times when it looked like there was nothing going on for me, I’ve felt like my life was at a standstill while everyone else was moving forward and if you’re in this place right now let me just tell you that your big break is coming! Yes nothing seems to be working out physically but it doesn’t mean that things aren’t working out spiritually. I have tried to rush out of my dry seasons but going through them taught me patience, endurance and perseverance.

I know how difficult it can be to believe that anything good is going to come out of your situation, trust me, I’ve been there but your heavenly father can see the full picture and believe me when I say it’s a very beautiful one. These are not just words I’m typing flippantly, I mean every bit of it because I have personally experienced it. Waiting for that right time/big break can be really hard, you may be tempted to lose faith or give up hope, you may begin to have doubts but the wonderful thing about God is that He’s so faithful and he never fails. Keep holding on, keep believing in him and always praise him in advance!

Do keep in mind that your daddy God loves you so much and would never withhold any good thing from you.

Love always,

Mrs. A

If you’re currently going through challenging times and you’d like a listening ear, some encouragement or motivation, please contact me here: talktomrsa@gmail.com

 

Posted in Inspirational

Lean On Me

Hello beautiful people!

This post is actually to share with you all a project my sisters and I carried out last week but let me just quickly take a detour because the title here is stirring up something in me. You know how you can sing a song for years but not really know all the lyrics? Yeah that’s how I’ve always sang the ‘Lean on Me’ song.

Sometimes in our lives,
we all have pain, we all have sorrow.
But if we are wise,
we know that there’s always tomorrow.

Lean on me when you’re not strong
I’ll be your friend, I’ll help you carry on
For it won’t be long
‘til I’m gonna need somebody to lean on.

Please swallow your pride, if I have things you need to borrow
For no one can fill those of your needs, that you won’t let show.

You just call on me, brother, when you need a hand
We all need somebody to lean on.
I just might have a problem that you’ll understand,
We all need somebody to lean on.

If there is a load, you have to bear
That you can’t carry
I’m right up the road
I’ll share your load
If you just call me.

Call me if you need a friend…

Aaah what a beautiful song! I’m really taking a look at the lyrics right now and realizing just how deep and touching it is. If we would practice what we sing, we would make the world such a better place with everyone looking out for one another. Unfortunately, we are mostly so insensitive and intolerant and it always breaks my heart to see the kind of things we do to one another. Many times I’ve asked God why He gave me such a big heart that cares so much but I’ve come to understand that it is for a purpose. You know how some people say not to bother telling others about your problems because no one cares anyway? Yeah that’s a lie, I’m the one who cares. In such a fast paced world where everyone is looking out for themselves only, I’m the one who is trying to look out for and be there for everyone because that’s just me and I actually enjoy doing that, so do call me when you need a friend.

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Always here if you need me!

Alright, now to the main story. So a few months ago, some of my sisters from high school (St. Mary’s Senior High) and myself came together to plan a mentoring and counseling program dubbed ‘A shoulder to lean on’, through which the present students of the school (mentees) can be connected to influential past students (mentors), past students can visit and share their life experiences with the younger girls as a form of encouragement and motivation and also spend quality time with them discussing various life issues and the most suitable ways to handle them. By God’s grace, the maiden edition came off last Friday and it was amazing! We had a lovely time with our younger sisters talking to them about various topics such as how to achieve academic excellence, having a relationship with God, career goals and achieving them, relationships with guys, self-worth and self-respect. It was so wonderful to be back there and to have the opportunity to impact the lives of our younger sisters positively. I’m so grateful to the all ladies who came together to make this a success, may God bless us all.

Here are some of the photos from the event, enjoy!

From L-R (behind): Mr Zivor, Miss Pamela Addy, Miss Joana Bempong, Miss Sedita Mensah, Miss Edna Odame, Miss Kafui Agbodjah and front row from L-R: My honorable self, Miss Christolite Kpani & Mrs Barbara Ouedraogo.

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The amazing team that made it happen

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Meet my very special friend, also called Sharon, who is in the same house & same dorm room that I was in when I was there. How cool is that?! I just had to get a photo.

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Love always,

Mrs. A

I’m right here if you need a friend, call on me: talktomrsa@gmail.com

 

Posted in Spiritual, Talk Back Tuesdays

Does God give us more than we can handle?

Hello beautiful people!

I was reading someone’s blog yesterday and a concern was raised about people who say “God will not give you more than you can handle” dismissively to people going through hard times. The person was concerned that even though this statement is supposed to be encouraging, it mostly comes across as rather insensitive or dismissive, kind of like telling whoever is going through the hard time to just suck it up because after all, God has given them exactly what they can handle. That just raised so many questions in my mind and I’d be grateful if anyone could help me answer them.

Before I get into my questions, let me share the Bible verse that seems to talk about this.

1 Corinthians 10:13

No temptation [regardless of its source] has overtaken or enticed you that is not common to human experience [nor is any temptation unusual or beyond human resistance]; but God is faithful [to His word-He is compassionate and trustworthy], and He will not let you be tempted beyond your ability [to resist], but along with the temptation He [has in the past and is now and] will [always] provide the way out as well, so that you will be able to endure it [without yielding, and will overcome temptation with joy]. (AMP)

The only temptation that you have are the same temptations that all people have. But you can trust God. He will not let you be tempted more than you can bear. But when you are tempted, God will also give you a way to escape that temptation. Then you will be able to endure it. (ERV)

No test or temptation that comes your way is beyond the course of what others have had to face. All you need to remember is that God will never let you down; he’ll never let you be pushed past your limit; he’ll always be there to help you come through it. (MSG)

So these 3 versions have a common message which has been popularly interpreted as ‘God will not give you more than you can handle.’ I love how the second part of this verse talks about God always giving us a way out of our temptations. It is quite reassuring to know that He’s always with us and he’ll always be there to help us come through it as the MSG version puts it.

That brings me to my first set of questions. If the verse is talking about temptations/being tempted as it is clearly stated, why is it often applied to people facing challenges/going through a hard time to make it look like it is God who is taking them through that? Is Paul talking about temptations/tests OR going through hard times in life/facing challenges OR both? We know everyone has their own way of processing and dealing with issues so how exactly do we determine what more than we can handle is, as everyone’s limits/breaking point varies? When you say that to a person, do you know for sure that they can actually handle whatever they are going through or do you just say it because it’s something that seems okay to say at such a time?

“God never gives you more than you can handle” : A nice sentiment which we believe is encouraging and comforting but doesn’t really match with real life because we experience many struggles, illnesses, devastation and painful situations that are much more than we can handle, that even bring us to our breaking point.

Also: Do trials/temptations come from God? Does He allow us to be tempted? The way it says ‘He will not let you be tempted more than’ makes it look as though He will let you be tempted, but not more than you can bear. Well James 1:13 tells us not to say God is tempting us because He doesn’t tempt anyone. The following verse (v14) goes on to say that it is the evil things we want that tempt us, so that certainly rules out the thought that temptations come from God. That leaves us with trials (challenges/hard times), which we all experience at some point in our lives. Are they also from God? Does God deliberately take us through trials that feel unbearable?

Personally, I don’t think God gives us anything that we have to ‘handle’, in that sense. God does not give us trials, neither does He take us through hard times nor make us face challenges. The difficulties in life are not temptations, neither are they from God. We, by our own actions create problems and situations for ourselves and we end up blaming the devil or God. How can a father of light, so full of love from whom every good and perfect gift comes deliberately put us through hard times? Is He trying to punish us or teach us a lesson? That would actually negate who He is. The last part of James 1:17 (MSG) says: ‘There is nothing deceitful in God, nothing two-faced, nothing fickle.’ How then can He give us the good stuff and also bad stuff?

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What do you think? Do leave a comment and let’s have a discussion. I would love to read your thoughts and views on this topic!

Love always,

Mrs A.

If you’re currently going through challenging times and you’d like a listening ear, some encouragement or motivation, please contact me here: talktomrsa@gmail.com

 

 

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Posted in Inspirational

God’s Time Vrs Our Time

Hello beautiful people!

‘God’s time is the best.’ I’m sure you have heard this at some point in your life but what does it really mean? When is God’s time?

So you know how whenever you close your eyes or try to envision your future, you keep seeing yourself doing certain things or going to certain places? Or how you have this strong desire in your heart to get a particular thing done? Yeah that is your God given dream. Unfortunately, not everyone will go ahead and make that dream a reality. We can dream all we want, (I’m such a big dreamer) but at some point we’ve got to wake up and do something! I am all for living out your dreams but to be honest, it is never easy. In fact, one of the most challenging  things to do in this life is taking that risk, daring to believe in yourself enough and stepping out in faith to make that dream happen but even then, it won’t all come together for you at once. Sometimes you would even question yourself and God, and ask if He indeed put that dream in your heart because when you look around you, it looks far from possible but believe me when I say that your vision is yet for an appointed time and as long as we are in this world where there are seasons and times, it shall surely come to pass.

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There are times when things have happened for us sooner than we expected (example: my marriage) and in such cases do we say it was God’s time? Of course we do because once it is a good thing then it definitely happened in God’s perfect time.

There are also times when things have happened for us later than we expected or they don’t seem to be happening for us at all (example: me trying to find a job after Uni). When we think certain things (mostly material) like money, jobs, marriage, childbirth, etc. have delayed in our lives, do we also say then that it is because it’s not God’s time yet or do we get frustrated? Many times, it seems we dictate to God when and how we want things to happen, I mean we even give deadlines and send threats but is God moved by these things? Nope!

In my life, I’ve had to wait for many things to happen for me mostly when it had already happened for everyone around me (example: me owning a laptop for the first time, story for another day) so I know how hard and frustrating it can be to wait but I also know that when God says something is going to be done, it definitely gets done BUT at the time He sees fit because like I always say, He knows BEST.

Imagine giving your 10 year old child a million dollars. What would he/she do with it? Even if they have some great ideas, how are they going to implement it on their own? But imagine giving it to them 20 years later, when you’ve watched them grow into a responsible adult who can manage their affairs properly. Wouldn’t you trust them better at this age with such an amount? I feel like this is the way it is with us and God. As an all knowing God, I’m sure He knows what we can & cannot handle and when we can & can’t handle it, so He wouldn’t give us what we’re not prepared or ready for, or anything that we can’t handle even if we say we want it. Take some time to reflect on some of the things you wanted so badly 5 years ago but never had, and ask yourself if you would truly have been able to handle it at the time. Maybe then you thought you could have, but if you’re honest with yourself, when you look back today, you’d realize that you probably weren’t ready for it or you didn’t really need it and that’s why you never had it. I just searched myself and you don’t want to know what I wanted badly 5 years ago.

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A friend of mine always used to post this quote that I love so much: “Faith in God includes faith in His timing.” If we say we have faith in God then of course we must have faith in His perfect timing too. We know His timing is not like ours, He is never too early or late so even though we may think things have delayed or have happened too soon, for Him they happen right on time. Don’t get frustrated or tired of waiting for that thing that seems to be taking so long to happen, God knows the right time to give it to you and that is the exact time you’re going to get it. There are no laws anywhere that state that certain things in our lives should happen at specific times so rest easy and keep trusting in God’s timing because like He said in Isaiah 60:22 (MSG); “I am GOD. At the right time I’ll make it happen.” (NIRV): “I am the Lord. When the time is right, I will act quickly.” (AMP): “I, the LORD, will quicken it in its [appointed] time.”

In his time, in his time,

He makes all things beautiful in His time…

Keep trusting, keep hoping and keep believing, God will definitely come through for you. He loves you so much and He will never fail you!

Love always,

Mrs. A

If you’re currently going through challenging times and you’d like a listening ear, some encouragement or motivation, please contact me here: talktomrsa@gmail.com

 

Posted in Talk Back Tuesdays

What scares you?

Hello beautiful people!

Before I go in today, let me just ask a few questions and you can reply to them in the comments. When you sit still and close your eyes, what do you see yourself doing? What does your future life look like when you imagine/picture it? Are there things you see in your future but you’re not seeing in your present life? For me there are so many! I know it is God who puts dreams, goals and ambitions in our hearts but it is entirely up to us to actually make them happen because we all know He’s not going to come down and chase our dreams for us.

The one thing that holds us back from achieving our God given dreams or even venturing out to do anything out of the ordinary is fear.

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False Evidence Appearing Real. Sometimes it’s all in your head

Oh I felt this on my way home today and I knew I had to share because I have been a victim of this bad boy several times. Those mental images you have of yourself doing one great thing or the other are not just silly imaginations, they are actually dreams which have been put on your heart for you to make a reality! Sometimes, we believers get so caught up with ‘waiting on God’ or ‘waiting for God’s time’ that several chances and opportunities pass us by without us even realizing it. Sometimes, it is just our fear of the unknown, fear of failure or even fear of our own greatness that holds us back.

Would you leave your comfort zone and your familiar surroundings to take up a job offer somewhere you have never been? Would you take the chance to try that new thing you’ve been meaning to, even if it doesn’t go well? Are you willing to step into the line of work you really want to do even if you can’t tell what the outcome is going to be? Will you still go ahead and chase your dreams even if the people around you don’t support you? What I’ve come to know about dreams and goals is that God gives them to each person privately. He won’t come and tell me about the dream He has put on YOUR heart, He will reveal it to YOU alone. You are the only one who knows what He has placed on your heart so until you are sure of how to make it a reality, you are better off keeping it to yourself. I’ve learnt this the hard way. Remember Joseph the dreamer in Genesis 37?

This is just a short one to encourage anyone who is being held back by fear to go on and be amazing at whatever they want to do.

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You need to let go of the fear of:

  • Failure
  • Being judged- what others will think/say (this is the fastest & easiest way to lose yourself)
  • Not being good enough
  • Trying new things
  • Living your dream/walking in your purpose
  • Change
  • Loving and being loved
  • Rejection (I had this fear earlier today but later realized it was totally uncalled for)

Let’s talk about your dreams and ambitions. Do they scare you when you think of them? Good! That means you’re dreaming BIG. If your dreams don’t scare you then they are just normal and ordinary. Do you have any fears? What’s holding you back from doing what you really want to do?

Dare to dream big, dare to step out of your comfort zone and into your purpose, dare to do the things that scare yet excite you so much.

God loves you so very much and He’s always got you. He has promised never to leave or forsake you so go out there and be great! He’s with you every step of the way.

Love always,

Mrs A.

If you’re currently going through challenging times and you’d like a listening ear, some encouragement or motivation, please contact me here: talktomrsa@gmail.com

 

 

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