Hello beautiful people!
I missed you all so very much. I’m always thinking about when next I can come here and share with my WordPress family but work is taking so much of me!
Someone once said true happiness is one of the hardest things to find these days and I think that’s true because there are so many people who are secretly hurting but putting on a brave face for the world. In a society that is so fast paced and barely has time to feel, people have to suck it up and pretend they are okay even if they are falling apart on the inside.
I saw a post on Instagram by Pastor Cornelius Lindsey which I’d like to share with you all.
As an emotional person, I’ve often come across people who have dismissed my feelings and brushed it off as though it was my fault that I feel everything more deeply than others (where my emo sisters at?) so I began to think of and refer to it as my weakness not realizing how much of a strength it actually is, because it does take a lot for one to feel so deeply like I do.
Besides the fact that it’s not always easy to find someone you can trust and confide in without being judged, there are also the ‘Get over it’ type of people.
So you’ve found someone you think you can trust and confide in, you share what’s deeply bothering you and all they say to you is ‘Get over it’, or ‘Don’t worry’ or ‘Don’t think about it too much’. The worst one for me is ‘It is well’.
Are we so desensitized to other people’s problems and issues that we just flippantly say something so hollow like ‘It is well’?
It is well? Let’s talk about this for a minute.
It is not well. I wouldn’t be sharing my problems with you if it was well. I wouldn’t be crying right now if it was well. I wouldn’t be feeling depressed if it was well. If I’m telling you I’m not okay and you’re telling me it is well, it’s like you’re not listening to me.
Can we please allow people to feel? Yes they will get over it but for now, in the moment, can you please hug them and hold their hand through it?
Or is it that we genuinely don’t know what to say, so we say things like that?
“God is in control”. Yes, the person who came to you certainly knows that God is in control but they’re coming to you for comfort, for you to hear them out and at least feel for them not to repeat what they already know.
Let’s be more empathetic and kind to one another. You don’t always have to say something, sometimes your presence alone is enough. That reassuring smile, that pat on the back or warm hug goes a longer way than the flippant words ever will.
Life is stressful enough, let’s try to make it a little bit easier for the people around us by being there for them.
If you’re currently going through challenging times and you’d like a listening ear, some encouragement or motivation, please contact me here: email@example.com