Of all the days this challenge could talk about work, it had to be today.
Today that was so horrible that I wished the earth would open up and swallow me or I could just disappear.
Some days are good, some days are great, others are just well, like today.
If you’re wondering what I do, I work in a customer experience department where I have to work with a diverse (VERY diverse) group of customers every day. You’d never know who would be your next customer, whether they’d be nice, calm or irate and I can’t even keep count of the number of people I speak to in a day.
Everyday for me is an opportunity to learn and do better. I actually try to pick up tips from everyone I come into contact with, especially those who have more experience in this field.
My role is quite challenging and can be so extra that it leaves me with little to no energy for anything else at the end of the day (I have classes right after work though 🤦🏽♀️). Sometimes I can barely get any words out when I get home. Yes, it’s that hectic and that’s why my recent posts always come in late.
Well, it’s time for me to go unwind after such a long, hard day.
Don’t be too shocked when you see me at the end of the day looking like
Hello beautiful people! I hope you all enjoyed the holidays like I did. So grateful to God for counting us all worthy to receive such a great sacrifice of love.
So over the past few months, I have been doing a lot of studying about gifts, callings, God-given dreams and walking in your purpose as a child of God and the wealth of information I discovered has really set me free. I really could have spared myself a lot of headaches, heartache and anxiety if I had known these things earlier but thank God it’s not too late because I have never been happier and more excited about life as I am right now.
Do you know that each one of us has been called by God to do something specific? (1 Corinthians 7:17 & 20)
Do you know that God has placed unique gifts and talents in ALL of us not just some? (1 Corinthians 7:7b, 12:4)
I bet you have heard before that God has a purpose for your life but do you know for certain what that is? It is really dangerous to walk around not knowing what your purpose in life is because you will go round and round in circles thinking you are accomplishing much but never truly feeling satisfied and always feeling like you want something new or different. When you do walk in your purpose however, you always have that inner sense of fulfillment, pride and joy and feeling of accomplishment because you’d always feel like you truly have made a difference as opposed to merely existing; and most of us are merely existing these days, I was once like that.
Alright, story time:
I got a job offer before I completed national service and came back to Accra (in 2014) and I accepted almost instantly because from where I was standing, the search for a job was looking rather bleak. I didn’t have any connections or know people in high places so even though it was a contract which wasn’t going to be renewed when it ended, I took it anyway. That was my first job as a graduate in the real world and as crazy as the hours were (Sunday-Sunday + a lot of late nights), I did it willingly and wholeheartedly. My struggles began when the contract ended, I now had to face the world as an unemployed graduate. I had no idea what to do or where to start life from, hence the many mistakes I made but if I had the slightest idea of what my purpose in this life was, perhaps I wouldn’t have spent as much time as I did searching for nonexistent jobs and beating myself up for not having one. Life was so hard for me; when I looked around, I saw my mates furthering their education or working some prestige jobs or starting their own businesses and I was just home clueless, not knowing what to do with myself. Again I found myself asking:
What I know now that I didn’t know then was that I should have been seeking to discover what my purpose in life is. I should have been exploring and tapping into my God given gifts and talents, and using them, instead of being so focused on finding a job and joining in the national unemployed graduates’ motto: “there are no jobs in Ghana.” In fact, if I had channeled as much time and energy into discovering my purpose as I did in trying to find a job, I believe I would have accomplished so much more by now. ‘When you know what your purpose is, you also know what isn’t your purpose, so you stop being distracted trying to do something that is far from what you were designed to do’- Bishop T.D. Jakes. Well good news is, it’s never too late and at any age, you can ignite your passion through finding your purpose. The most important thing is to take that first step towards it.
So what is this purpose I speak of that is not taught in our schools and some of our parents might not have known to help us out with? Your purpose in life is your WHY. It is the sole reason why you were placed on this earth and it is totally up to you to discover that so while I may moan about not knowing this earlier, it was really up to me to have sought after that knowledge.
Exercise 1: Ask yourself, ‘Why am I here?’
When thing weren’t working out for me job wise, I began praying to God asking Him to show me what my purpose was. The mistake I made here was instead of focusing on that, I still went job hunting and ended up in the last place I worked at before I gave it all up. I looked everywhere outside of myself for my purpose and meaning in life, ignorant of the fact that God had already placed it inside of me, I was born with it. The key to knowing your purpose is discovering and celebrating your personal identity. Your purpose resides in you, therefore you need to get to know more about yourself- likes, dislikes, values, goals and the like, then you will have a greater sense of whether or not the life you currently live suits you. When was the last time you sat in complete silence to listen to your heart or just to daydream?
Exercise 2: Spend about 10 minutes of your day in total silence, no distractions and get to know yourself.
When I came into the realization of my purpose and calling in life, I couldn’t believe how much time I had wasted trying to be something that I was not. What was I doing working as a sales and marketing executive?
It was so far from what I was really meant to be doing! It was not so bad when I worked as a front desk/client service executive because I got to help people out which I enjoy doing, but the salary was really bad and it was not even in my field of interest. I had some family members look at me funny when I quit, telling me I should have stayed anyway instead of trying to find out what I really wanted to do but thank God for my super supportive mom! Throughout all my ups and downs with work, she never once made me feel like I was a bum or not good enough.
Now, it is so mind blowing when I think of all the goodies I was sitting on while I was in that setting. I was loaded with these heavy duty gifts but I was just sitting around playing ‘office girl’ while my gifts remained dormant. It was killing me inside because I knew in my heart that was just not me, but I listened to society which tried to make me believe a white collar job was the only way out. I was confused for a long time because I knew I had something in me, I knew I could be something more but I just didn’t know how or what. In one of my moments of wondering, I wrote this: White or Blue, either will do.
With the things God has deposited in me, I always knew I didn’t want be confined to the setting of a four-squared space called office but because I didn’t see how my dreams were going to be actualized, I restricted myself so badly that I no longer dreamt big, I could only see one route to making it; the ‘I-need-a-job’ route. Coming out of that box was the best thing I could ever do for myself and though it wasn’t financially rewarding yet, it was oh so liberating! Thinking I could be or do anything I wanted was so exhilarating! No time limits, no deadlines, no confined space, no boxes, I was finally free!
Now I could fully pursue my God given dreams and use my gifts and talents effectively. I came across a young man I used to know in the corporate world who is now out of it and pursuing a music career and I could literally feel the liberation he exuded.
I am not telling anyone to go and quit their job but I have a few things for you to consider if you feel you are in the wrong job or not walking in your purpose/calling.
Does your job tap into your gift/natural abilities?
Are you constantly just waiting for pay day or just doing it for the money but don’t enjoy the work itself?
Are you gaining new skills, learning new things and is there room for growth?
Can’t shake off the feeling that you want something new?
Does your job make you sad or depressed? Is going to work a struggle- you don’t really want to go? Are you enthused about what you’re going to do?
If you answer yes to any of these questions, it is a sign that you need to reconsider what you’re doing because you are probably doing it halfheartedly and you are not walking in your purpose/calling. What you should know that there is no single route to success. Some people even say success is relative because what I may define as successful might not be your idea of successful and vice versa. Everyone’s path is different; we are all not the same neither can we all do the same work. We have all been called to do different things and your success in that field is what you define as success, not your failure in someone else’s field. Our communities, churches and country as whole would be such a better place to be if everyone was walking in their calling and contributing their bit to overall development. We have been called to do just that- 1 Timothy 4:14
I used to be so ashamed to admit or even say it out loud to myself that I didn’t have a job (a salaried job that can be lost at any time) but now I am proud to say and can even shout it on the rooftops that I am joyfully building my career, walking in my purpose and enjoying every bit of the journey!
God loves you so very much and He has destined you for greatness! You just have to step out of your comfort zone and do what He has called you to do.
For mentoring, a listening ear or general discussions on how to walk in your purpose, contact me: email@example.com